Warning

People often wonder if there are signs that might warn about potential violence in a relationship.  The following is adapted from the National Technical Assistance Center of Family Violence.

  • Did your partner grow up in a violent family?  Some people who grew up with violence may use it when faced with problems?
  • Does your partner tend to use force to “solve” problems?  Does your partner have a quick temper? 
  • Does your partner punch walls or things when upset? Is your partner cruel to animals?
  • Does your partner have a poor self-image that tries to cover up by being tough?
  • Does your partner have strong old-fashioned beliefs about the roles of men and women?
  • Is your partner jealous of you, your other friends and family?  Does your partner keep tabs on you?  Does your partner frequently accuse you of cheating? 
  • When your partner is angry, do you feel afraid of your partner?  Do you find that trying not to make your partner angry is a major part of your life?
  • Does your partner treat you roughly or physically force you to do what you don’t want to do; such as keeping you from walking away from an argument?
  • Does your partner play with guns or other weapons?  Does your partner talk about using them against people to “get even?”
  • Does your partner experience extreme highs and lows?  Is your partner really kind at one time and really cruel at others?  Does your partner can have an unpredictable and confusing personality?
  • Does your partner blame others for their actions?  Does your partner not believe that their violent actions have negative consequences?  Does your partner have no awareness of/or guilt for violating their partners boundaries.
  • ABUSE DURING DATING IS A GUARANTEE OF ABUSE LATER; DO NOT THINK THAT MARRIAGE OR LIVING TOGETHER WILL CHANGE YOUR PARTNER.  

Not sure if you are in an abusive relationship? Take this quick quiz and find out.